Joyce Meyer says: "Do yourself a favour and forgive." How do I come to forgive my brethren and neighbours without first forgiving myself? Forgiving oneself might sound easier but it actually is not. I might even ask, "What is it about me that I need to forgive myself? What did I do to myself that requires my own mercy and love?" One of these could infer millions of answers, it could that: "I hate myself for having married a short or too tall or an ugly man or lady."; "Of all people, why did I even bear such a hopeless child?; "Why is it always me being hurt every time I try falling in love?"; "How come I never get promoted at my job?"; "I really hate it that I am fat or short or too tall!"; and many other questions you may ever wish or already have posed to yourself. These even block that opportune moment you have to tremendously change someone's life by sharing about your personal life.
Forgiving
oneself requires one's acknowledgment and acceptance that one has not been
having mercy on himself or herself. As I stated in the previous post, this mercy
has already been accorded to us though it takes us time to realize this. At
the realization of this, we ought to perform a 'letting go' action. This refers
to realizing what exactly has been holding us back and striving to transcend
that state. We need to accept ourselves the way we are for I say to you, "You
are perfect just the way you are." We know we cannot be any more perfect
than our Creator for He is All-Perfect and we participate in His perfection.
The
perfect YOU is not all about the body shape that our eyes perceive. That
perfect YOU is the inner you, what comes out of your heart is the perfect YOU,
whether you stammer or speak fluently; cry like a baby or try to keep yourself
strong by not crying; you love unconditionally or have strings attached to your
love. It is that YOU that depicts what we comprehend of you. The Perfection you
are called to participate in does not complain about your faults, weaknesses,
height, weight, kind of partner you have, hopeless child you bore, and many
other human complaints. All of these are encompassed and surpassed by the love
that streams from our All-Perfect creator. With the outpouring of this love,
our inner wounds are filled and healed by this. Then are we able to forgive,
love and cherish ourselves.
